Why the exclamations points every time you reply to me? I'm not here to try to win an argument, I'm just telling my experiences, no need to get so excited.
And the Tomei is different than the aFe header because that is a 4-2-1 design with its own uppipe vs. a 4-1 design which I used with the stock uppipe, so I would expect them to sound at least somewhat different. I never said it would be dramatically different, I just said mine is quieter than stock now (and that's not by much). It mainly reduced the low frequency sounds, which are the most noticeable.
If I had any kind of decent camera, I'd make a clip for you. You're comparing a different header and downpipe setup, so it's not exactly an apples to apples comparison. They're similar, but not the same. You don't have to believe me if you don't want to.